If you’re not familiar with The Spoon Theory, this is not going to make a lick of sense, so if that’s the case, go read it.
Now, because my idea of ritual is a wibbly-wobbly magicky-wagicky ball of stuff and not a Proper Ritual™, the list of required things is really up to you, but if you do best with solid rules, here is what I used:
- A spoon (I lied, this is the only non-optional part, you’re really going to want a spoon for this). I got a cute one at Cost Plus for like, two bux, with a little curly black handle, and it’s all stainless steel, and just has a great feel in the hand. Get something that you will enjoy handling, as this is a pretty tactile spell and to activate it later you’ll again be playing with your spoon and so you want it to make you happy.
- Some symbols that represent strength — I first got into magic through crystals so here I used some of my stones. Hematite, sodalite, a labradorite Fox gave me, a red sedimentary thing L brought me from Arizona, red tiger’s eye, a tektite I dedicated to Lilith, and a bloodstone. Use what works for me, or if you don’t use stones, you can sub anything here: herbs, tarot cards, runes, pictures of things that make you happy, any symbols that work for you. My friends are a great source of strength to me so I definitely wanted to include things that they brought me to help me. You can even use your own pill bottles if that’s what makes sense to you.
- I’ve been working with runes a bit so I have an Uruz pendant in there too.
- A candle representing the element that helps you the most. With fibromyalgia, heat is one of the most beneficial non-medicinal things you can apply to your pain, so I used my red tealight holder to represent fire. (You can use incense for air, a cup of water for water, a bit of salt or soil for earth, a figurine of Twilight Sparkle to represent magic, whatever jives with your system, man, it’s all good.)
- An oil or other liquid that represents comfort and strength. For me, this is lavender. If you can’t figure out why, jeez. I don’t know what to tell you. I mean. More seriously, another thing that benefits fibro is restorative sleep, which is something I get very little of due to the nature of the disease, and lavender is a very restful, sleep-promoting scent. Use what works for you, just don’t use something you shouldn’t be handling with your bare hands. (Allergic to essential oils or just don’t have any? Olive oil is an awesome anointing oil! Think of it like the clear quartz of oils: you can use it for nearly any purpose.)
- …If you want to use literal liquid courage and anoint your spoon with whiskey, YOLO, bitchezzz.
I lit my candle and put a drop of lavender oil in the bowl of the spoon and began to anoint it all the way down the handle. As I did, I would usually have stayed quiet and just focused, but I know how y’all like to have the option of words in your spells, so after a while I settled on some words to add.
Save up some energy for me, little spoon,
So when I’m out of spoons I’ll always have one in reserve.
Once your spoon is anointed and you’ve had a good chat with it (you can really say whatever you want, or sing, or whatever floats ya) lay it down among the symbols of strength you’ve gathered by the candle and let it soak up the strength there.
When you’re really tired and stressed out and feel like you can’t possibly make it through the day, pull out that extra spoon and remember the things you have in your life that make it better, and tap into the energy you’ve stored in your extra spoon. You can continually recharge it when you’re feeling good, too, just by playing with it and focusing your positive emotions and feelings of health into it.
And that’s it!